Does asking different questions make you different?
While listening to various podcasts hosted by notable figures such as Steven Bartlett, Joe Rogan, Andrew Huberman, and the much-loved Ranveer, I observed a distinct pattern in the way they pose questions. This pattern sets them apart from others and cements their status as top-tier podcasters.
The key differentiator is their art of asking questions. They avoid generic queries, instead opting for a blend of open-ended and close-ended questions. This approach allows them to delve deeper into their guest's perspective. Contrary to the assumption that podcasting is straightforward, I argue it's more an art form centered around understanding the nuances of the conversation and the thoughts of the person across from you.
This observation leads me to ponder whether asking varied questions not only makes one distinct but also more knowledgeable. Have you ever ventured off-topic during a conversation, only to find that it provides valuable insights into someone's work ethic or perspective? Since I began working as a consultant, I've shifted from asking conventional "How," "When," & "What" questions. Instead, I focus on understanding the desired outcomes of my clients. I find asking open-ended questions more comforting and insightful, allowing the other person to express themselves freely.
Take Steven Bartlett, for example. He often initiates discussions with an open-ended question, gradually guiding the guest towards topics he believes will benefit both his audience and himself. His questions are specifically tailored to explore certain aspects of the interviewee's life that have shaped their identity.
I encourage you to adopt this strategy of asking varied questions in your interactions. You'll find that it makes you both more engaging and knowledgeable about the person you're speaking with. Instead of the mundane "How was your day?" inquire about something unique they did over the weekend or simply ask, "Are you happy?" While these questions might seem ordinary, they are rarely asked, and the responses they elicit can be surprisingly profound.
